Archive for March, 2009

Quitting Time

I recently served as a panelist for a conversation about young professionals getting into the non-profit industry. An attendee (incongruously, I might add) asked,  “Is it hard to leave your job? As in quit?”

I answered immediately:  “You are always replaceable.”

My fellow panelists and I all smiled at one another and they chimed in that they, too, thought quitting was easy.  No biggie. Have an exit strategy, if at all possible.

Quitting a job is a form of boundary setting – practically and emotionally. You’re saying no to one opportunity so you can say yes to another. What struck me in talking with my fellow panelists afterwards is how that act of assertion is preceeded by self-awareness and a balanced ego. It requires that you actually do know what’s good for you, that you can hold on to yourself in the face of resistence, whether it be internal or external. It also requires accepting that yes, you are ALWAYS replaceable.

The Siren Song of To-Dos

There’s always something more you need to be doing.

Whether it’s buying, plucking, watching, fixing or changing, this message seems to be everywhere. It’s in advertising – to be expected – and it’s also in religion and self-help and work. “To-dos” serve as an undercurrent of our cultural creed, a result of our evolutionary drive, perhaps. We knowwe/life/work/our future can be better and so we create a plan to make it happen.

I’m a life coach. I get paid, in part, because people believe this message. They believe there’s always something more to be doing. And so do I. Sometimes.

And sometimes I think it’s a load of crap. Life isn’t about constantly evolving into something else. Life is about becoming more authentic, more basic. It’s often about devolving.

Of course, the items on our to-do lists sometimes help us do that. More often, they don’t. They lead us down a path of over-consumption, greed, busyness and stress. In short, they make life less sustainable.

This blog will be about many things, I am sure. I am also sure I will be circling around this theme of sustainability. What is a sustainable life? How does it get created? What gets in the way?

I look forward to hearing your thoughts. Until then (and in the spirit of guest blogging), I offer a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh from his book The Art of Power:

“Look at a tree in the front yard: the tree doesn’t seem to do anything. It just stands there, vigorous, fresh and beautiful, and everyone benefits from it. This is the miracle of being. If a tree is less than a tree, all of us will be in trouble. If a tree can be a real tree, there is hope, there is joy.”

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